I have to admit my darling boyfriend was right...terrible two's are not so terrible at all. In fact they are quite magical.
Yes, there are days where my tot is super trying, and I have to admit most of those days I'm just exhausted anyway to begin with.
Every day I see this little individual asserting their independence, becoming his own person.
He has definite likes and dislikes now, which should be a good thing. They are starting to understand emotions such as the difference between mad and sad, hungry, tired and probably can voice some of those feelings to you. Mine can tell me he's mad, but he can't always explain why he is, and that people is where the tantrums come into play. They can't voice everything they want to and more times than not, that is the root of these so called "terrible two" tantrums.
I am so guilty of being upset with him when tantrums occur, but I need to remind myself (we all really should) that just like us they have good and bad days. Our toddlers can't tell us they are having a bad day, so it is our job as parents to really be in tune with our little loves and notice the difference between tantrums over snacks and an all day just cruddy mood.
YOU HAVE TO REMAIN POSITIVE!!!
I find this stage to be so far the most fun, we can go all over together and it not be a super stressful time. He started story hour at the local library and is making friends and doing crafts (cutest thing in the world) We read books for a good 2 hours a day and he loves them. He doesn't need me to watch over him 24/7 during play time, and most of the time doesn't let me play. His imagination is fantastic making beaches and oceans out of blankets on the floor for his pirate toys to have adventures. I seriously could go on for days about all the things I love during this stage and could make a list of three or less things that really are difficult for me.
We need to see that we are not bad parents, our two year olds are not terrible, and to enjoy this wonderful stage of learning and play with them as much as we can. Seriously...how fast do they grow......SUPER FAST.....ENJOY IT. and remember this is just a stage it will pass, then on to the next stage with its own growing pains.
Thursday, October 31, 2013
Tuesday, October 22, 2013
I'm dreaming of......
A HOUSE!!!!
Don't get me wrong, I love our townhouse, I really do. It is spacious, and adorable, it has lots of updates, off street parking and I absolutely adore the community.
With all of that being said, I really do long for a house, a place that is truly ours. A nice house with plenty of land and no close neighbors. A place where what goes on in our home isn't heard by the people we share walls with and vice versa.
A place to grow with, remodel, have a garden, a trampoline, basketball hoop, a fire pit.. a big tree for a tree house. A yard of our own that we can freely play in and not worry about traffic. A place where I can open a backdoor and we can all go out in bathing suits or in my jammies in the morning to drink my coffee while the tot runs around. A place where my man and our boy can do father son activities and backyard camp outs.
While we believe home is wherever we are together, our ultimate goal/dream is to make a house our home.
Don't get me wrong, I love our townhouse, I really do. It is spacious, and adorable, it has lots of updates, off street parking and I absolutely adore the community.
With all of that being said, I really do long for a house, a place that is truly ours. A nice house with plenty of land and no close neighbors. A place where what goes on in our home isn't heard by the people we share walls with and vice versa.
A place to grow with, remodel, have a garden, a trampoline, basketball hoop, a fire pit.. a big tree for a tree house. A yard of our own that we can freely play in and not worry about traffic. A place where I can open a backdoor and we can all go out in bathing suits or in my jammies in the morning to drink my coffee while the tot runs around. A place where my man and our boy can do father son activities and backyard camp outs.
While we believe home is wherever we are together, our ultimate goal/dream is to make a house our home.
Wednesday, October 16, 2013
My Person
Thanks to last Thursday's episode of Glee, Rachel (Lea Michelle) found the perfect two word description of the man she loves: MY PERSON.
When asked to describe your love for your other half sometimes you have so many things to say, you can't spit anything out that quite describes it, but she did; and I have mine.
I'm not one to publicly gush, but I just can't help it.
The summer of 2010 I found my person. He is everything I didn't know I wanted and 100% just what I need. He is my complementary angle, my other half, my best friend, my love, the father of my child. He is my biggest supporter, my shoulder, my rock. He is home to me.
Never in a million years did I think someone could love me as much as he does and he has my heart forever.
Such a hard working, intelligent, handsome, caring, wonderful person; this doesn't mean we don't drive each other crazy or that we don't disagree, because we are human and we do. The key to that is to keep loving one another, and we do just that.
He is my comedian to my stiff type A, stick in the mud tendencies. He makes me light and I need that. He makes me want to be my better self. ( I say better because we always can improve) He has a way of making me feel like a silly child just when I need it most, and a way of telling me I'm being the biggest pain in the butt, I love him for both of those things.
He makes me see a Cabin with property and a porch with chairs. A yard that we play with our child( hopefully someday children) in, and have a swing set and camp fires. I see RV road trips after we become empty nesters. I see grandchildren, great grandchildren, us with gray hair and squishy tummies. I have never been able to picture one of those things, let alone all of them with a person, in my short, almost 24 years of life.
I am eternally grateful for the wonderful life he has given us and continues to want to give us.
I could go on for days but as Rachel said MY PERSON sometimes is all you can say to describe the so many wonderful, some indescribable things of that one person who has your heart for eternity.
When asked to describe your love for your other half sometimes you have so many things to say, you can't spit anything out that quite describes it, but she did; and I have mine.
I'm not one to publicly gush, but I just can't help it.
The summer of 2010 I found my person. He is everything I didn't know I wanted and 100% just what I need. He is my complementary angle, my other half, my best friend, my love, the father of my child. He is my biggest supporter, my shoulder, my rock. He is home to me.
Never in a million years did I think someone could love me as much as he does and he has my heart forever.
Such a hard working, intelligent, handsome, caring, wonderful person; this doesn't mean we don't drive each other crazy or that we don't disagree, because we are human and we do. The key to that is to keep loving one another, and we do just that.
He is my comedian to my stiff type A, stick in the mud tendencies. He makes me light and I need that. He makes me want to be my better self. ( I say better because we always can improve) He has a way of making me feel like a silly child just when I need it most, and a way of telling me I'm being the biggest pain in the butt, I love him for both of those things.
He makes me see a Cabin with property and a porch with chairs. A yard that we play with our child( hopefully someday children) in, and have a swing set and camp fires. I see RV road trips after we become empty nesters. I see grandchildren, great grandchildren, us with gray hair and squishy tummies. I have never been able to picture one of those things, let alone all of them with a person, in my short, almost 24 years of life.
I am eternally grateful for the wonderful life he has given us and continues to want to give us.
I could go on for days but as Rachel said MY PERSON sometimes is all you can say to describe the so many wonderful, some indescribable things of that one person who has your heart for eternity.
Tuesday, October 8, 2013
It's not ME.....It's YOU
If there are two things I have gotten irritated being told or asked on my journey into mommyhood, and the past almost 2 years of being a mother are...
Are you an anti feminist, don't you feel stuck in the 50's?
and
You have changed/you think you're better than certain people now.
Here is my answer to both, just to clear it up for everyone.
As far as being anti feminist or stuck in the ages of being screamed at/beaten for a less than perfect steak, you all should be ashamed of yourselves for asking. I thought the point of being a feminist was to fight for women's rights, and do as you feel best as women. Me being a stay at home mother/girlfriend is my life's joy, so no I do not feel oppressed, thanks for asking. Daycare is pricey, and no one could take care of our tot the way we do, so why wouldn't I want to do it. Taking care of my home and family brings me much happiness. I find it sad that when some people picture a homemaker, it is a woman who is scared of her man if the food isn't ready and she is waiting by the door slippers and drink in hand (although I've always loved that scene from Mary Poppins) OR they picture a woman so frazzled from taking care of everyone else she looks broken down and in ratty clothing....you all are crazy....PERIOD. Our choice of me taking care of the home/baby works for us and we love it.
Now onto the horrendous you have changed, you think you're better than us statement.
DUH I have changed you idiots, I'm a parent now....I wasn't before. Being out at the bar or at a party doesn't really tickle my fancy. And PLEASE when you describe how things used to be, do understand I am highly offended that you make it seem like I was some sort of raving party animal out to the crack of dawn every night. Do remember I worked full time and only went out on the weekends, and not every one. Also I was DD countless times, so you're welcome for the rides home, it was my pleasure.
NO, I am not better than anyone I am only human, as are you. My priorities are different and my life is different. I would hope that I am a better person today than I was yesterday, there is no growth without change. I don't really care for the person I was 4 years ago she was not me, she was someone trying to figure out where the old her went, and guess what ladies and gents, what you see now is who I really always was. We can part ways or you can like her. But I kind of really like the real me so I would hope people like her better too.
So it really isn't ME that is the problem, without a shadow of a doubt it is YOU
Are you an anti feminist, don't you feel stuck in the 50's?
and
You have changed/you think you're better than certain people now.
Here is my answer to both, just to clear it up for everyone.
As far as being anti feminist or stuck in the ages of being screamed at/beaten for a less than perfect steak, you all should be ashamed of yourselves for asking. I thought the point of being a feminist was to fight for women's rights, and do as you feel best as women. Me being a stay at home mother/girlfriend is my life's joy, so no I do not feel oppressed, thanks for asking. Daycare is pricey, and no one could take care of our tot the way we do, so why wouldn't I want to do it. Taking care of my home and family brings me much happiness. I find it sad that when some people picture a homemaker, it is a woman who is scared of her man if the food isn't ready and she is waiting by the door slippers and drink in hand (although I've always loved that scene from Mary Poppins) OR they picture a woman so frazzled from taking care of everyone else she looks broken down and in ratty clothing....you all are crazy....PERIOD. Our choice of me taking care of the home/baby works for us and we love it.
Now onto the horrendous you have changed, you think you're better than us statement.
DUH I have changed you idiots, I'm a parent now....I wasn't before. Being out at the bar or at a party doesn't really tickle my fancy. And PLEASE when you describe how things used to be, do understand I am highly offended that you make it seem like I was some sort of raving party animal out to the crack of dawn every night. Do remember I worked full time and only went out on the weekends, and not every one. Also I was DD countless times, so you're welcome for the rides home, it was my pleasure.
NO, I am not better than anyone I am only human, as are you. My priorities are different and my life is different. I would hope that I am a better person today than I was yesterday, there is no growth without change. I don't really care for the person I was 4 years ago she was not me, she was someone trying to figure out where the old her went, and guess what ladies and gents, what you see now is who I really always was. We can part ways or you can like her. But I kind of really like the real me so I would hope people like her better too.
So it really isn't ME that is the problem, without a shadow of a doubt it is YOU
Wednesday, October 2, 2013
my favorite season is here, finally
FALL...is here in all its glory and I couldn't be happier.
I am obsessed with the season for so many reasons, basically all my favorite things involve this time of year.
These are a few of my favorite things (Julie Andrews voice)
Sweaters, leggings,jeans, boots/booties, scarves, jackets, basically any autumnal attire.
Hot beverages and soups have a way of hitting the spot and bringing such comfort.
The scenery, upstate New York is the most gorgeous this time of year.
My levels of motivation are always at their peak in the fall, so I do lots of fall cleaning, the way one would spring clean.
The food: warm, cozy meals, squash, homemade breads, other delicious baked treats,you name it, I want to eat it.
Football and getting people together for football Sunday.
Pumpkin everything, it's cliche nowadays to like pumpkin but I don't give a darn, I love it.
The smell of the crisp air, dead leaves, cinnamon, baking, I seriously burn fall scented candles year round.
Pumpkin patches, corn mazes, Apple orchards, Halloween parties trick or treating.
What is your favorite season?
What do you love about fall or don't love about it?
I am obsessed with the season for so many reasons, basically all my favorite things involve this time of year.
These are a few of my favorite things (Julie Andrews voice)
Sweaters, leggings,jeans, boots/booties, scarves, jackets, basically any autumnal attire.
Hot beverages and soups have a way of hitting the spot and bringing such comfort.
The scenery, upstate New York is the most gorgeous this time of year.
My levels of motivation are always at their peak in the fall, so I do lots of fall cleaning, the way one would spring clean.
The food: warm, cozy meals, squash, homemade breads, other delicious baked treats,you name it, I want to eat it.
Football and getting people together for football Sunday.
Pumpkin everything, it's cliche nowadays to like pumpkin but I don't give a darn, I love it.
The smell of the crisp air, dead leaves, cinnamon, baking, I seriously burn fall scented candles year round.
Pumpkin patches, corn mazes, Apple orchards, Halloween parties trick or treating.
What is your favorite season?
What do you love about fall or don't love about it?
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